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I don't understand men ways....
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I really don't know how to write this prayer request. As I have a christian husband who hasn't desire me for 99% of our long married life of almost 50 years. He prefers self gratification and porn. I just don't understand why a person who says he christian can still treat his spouse like this. I really need incite into what all I can do to understand all of this. Has any others experience this?
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hannah 12/02/2015 07:27 |
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JT
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12/03/2015 02:40 |
Hannah, unfortunately many of us have slipped up and wandered down this path of sin. But your right as Christians we should repent and truly give our best effort and stay away from it. Without knowing you both, it does seem odd to spend 99% of his time engaged in this. Have you ever just come out and asked him? Maybe suggest counseling? Maybe get one of those internet porn blocking programs. Never the less I am praying for both of you in your marriage.
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Lewis
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12/03/2015 10:24 |
Hannah,
What you are experiencing no wife you go through. Your husband as an addiction to porn. It is not god's plan that man should behave in such a manner. You must love him to have endured this for many years. He needs help to be freed from this bondage. I would encourage yo to find a group of women who are dealing with this and talk with them. Talk to your pastor or a strong biblical counselor. You need to find support to yourself. I pray that your husband will be strongly convicted of his addictive sin by the Holy Spirit and repent and seek the help he needs. God can deliver him from this darkness with the light of his love and grace. I pray that God will give you strength, peace and wisdom. God is with you and desires to bring wholeness into your marriage.
Pastor Lewis
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2Corinthians10:4
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12/05/2015 15:15 |
Hannah,
I've been married twice. The first time we were not Christians. My husband was also addicted to porn. I feel your pain. Our marriage ended because we were both unfaithful. Times were dark for a while, but God used that darkness to bring me life in Christ. Here is what I would share with you. First you didn't say you were also a Christian. If you are not, that would be where to start. Feel free to ask me how. Second take your husband at his word. Believe that he is who he says he is, a Christian man. Then ask God to bring faithful Christian women into your life because you need community, you need to feel loved. Fourth go to church, listen to the DAB and read God's Word. Fifth go through the Bible and write down the number of people that had a problem with sin, keep that in your Bible, for when you feel discouraged. Satan lies, he steals, and he destroys, so even strong believers sometimes stumble. Movies and t.v. shows often depict Christians as perfect, Christians are not perfect, but God is faithful and true. When you are alone, put some headphones on, play your favorite song, and cry out to God, tell him everything, even though he already knows. Ask Him into your situation. Finally read the book -The Blacksmith Anointing- It is written by a friend who helped me tremendously. His name is Dr. Bruce Heany, D. Min. LPC It's a tiny book, so it won't take you long. His book talks about how you can fight. Read the whole thing, then re-read "A call into Covenant Marriage." Hannah you have an amazing calling, you just don't know it yet. Fight the good fight sister. I'm on your side.
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