My wife and I have been foster careers for just on 9 years. We took on 2 little boys In September 2007 or 8 years ago over the next 5 years the boy's mother and father had another 3 boys. Because we wanted to boys to grow as brothers we took all 5 and over that time have loved them like our own. We also have 3 children through our marriage.
The boys like so many in the foster care system come with many learning problems and behavioural issues which we have tried to educate ourselves on to become better parents of our children. These range from anxiety disorder, ADD, ADHD, ODD and autism. We have never seen these labels as defining the boys and who they will be but as we train them up we need to know and work with the person that the boy is.
On 16th August 2015 I was getting the boys ready for church. When one of the boys who has ADD, ODD and autistic traits asked where my wife was. Because of her nature he finds great security in her. I told him she was at church already. This upset him but he tried not to let me know. Later while I was cleaning the kitchen after breakfast and I was getting the two youngest children ready for church threat was an argument between the boy who was upset and his next younger brother over Lego. I tried to deal with the situation but the older upset boy didn't like my decision to take the Lego off both of them, even though he and I knew he was in the wrong. He and his brother went back to playing. Unfortunately this didn't last they ended up not being able to play with the Lego because the older boy was upset and hit his brother. I removed the older boy getting him to sit at the end of the dining table away from his younger brother. I told him he could do anything but he needed to stay at the table while I got the younger boys ready for church. He didn't stay at the table and smashed the Lego I had previously taken from the boys. With this I put him outside so I knew he wouldn't go and hurt someone while I wasn't able to watch. He came straight back in. I got frustrated with the situation and my ability to be able to meet this boys needs, after 45 minutes of trying to calm this boy down and I couldn't. I lost my temper and pushed him hard to were I wanted him, he fell. I picked him up and pushed him again this time he fell and hit his face on the floor.
We told the authorities what happened and all the boys were removed. We are devastated. We have been caring for these boys like they are our own for over 8 years. We expected the authorities to look at the whole situation and see that we need support we were hoping the authorities would give us that support and leave the children in our care, but it seems that they might take the boys from us.
Please pray that this will end soon it's been over 18 weeks since I have seen the boys, please pray for our boys, please pray for the authorities and please pray for us. Pray that the boys don't become too anxious or concerned. Pray that the authorities would be able to see the truth from the lies. Please pray that we will be patient in God's timing and that God will restore our family to us.
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