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lbmcoc
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08/08/2010 06:57 |
thank-you for your prayers and comments,me and my wife are trying to work things out,what i did was not right,i never had sex with the other woman but long conversations but we hugged and kissed ,that still don't make it any easier or right, i had affair yes ,and we are all hurting,i am seeking professional help...thanks again for shooting from the hip with your comments, and forgive me i am not a very good typer either...lbmcoc
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Rebecca
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08/08/2010 07:18 |
Kelley...outside of this forum, I would like to talk to you. If that is possible, please get a hold of me through the "contact each other" portal. I look forward to talking directly to you.
lbmcoc...I am usually not so direct with my commentary, but this topic is a point of great heartache for me. Please forgive my delivery, but consider God's point of view. I sincerely apologize for shooting at the hip...be free! live as God intended!
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Kelley
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08/09/2010 15:20 |
Rebecca, I can't tell which of the Rebecca's listed is you. Can you send me an email, just click on my name and my email address is publically posted there.
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Kelley
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08/09/2010 15:20 |
Rebecca, I can't tell which of the Rebecca's listed is you. Can you send me an email, just click on my name and my email address is publically posted there.
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Sarajane8
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08/22/2010 04:20 |
It's so refreshing to me that you have admitted your sin as it says in the word we should confess to each other. Who can understand the mind of G-D? For HIS ways are not our Ways and HIS thoughts are not our thoughts. HE forgave David and HE WILL and probably has forgiven you.
We ALL sin even if we don't commit what we tell ourselves are big sins, SIN is SIN to G-D rebellion is as witch craft and rebellion could be something as simple as not being obedient straight away because delayed obedience is disobedience.
Sexual sin is a biggie and although I haven't had an affair I have committed sexual sin in my life MORE than once and I know I am forgiven.
OK! something the Lord showed me the other day which blew my head off and began to make me feel physically sick. When the pagans would worship and still today they would use sex as a portal. This maybe nothind new to some of you but to me my mouth fell open as my mind was cast back to the amount of times I have committed sexual sin. It was then revealed to me that how sacred sex is to G-D and HE created it for us and when we have sex outside of marriage we are partaking in a form of witch craft.
Sounds heavy I know but research it for yourself. We create soul ties and all sorts of stuff. So maybe you should pray with your wife to break all soul ties formed and repent any witch craft bits and pieces.
You probably have done this already but just incase I thought I would mention it. Mayb you and your wife should go through Restored together.
Much Blessings to you G-D is able to do exceedingly and abundantly and HIS mercies endure forever.
Remember the woman caught in adultery.
Jesus didn't condem her as we do not condem you.
Stay strong
Much Blessings
Sj :)
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Ken Mikkelson
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08/30/2010 10:27 |
lbmcoc -
Yes, you can be restored. I met a woman 7 years ago, had an emotional affair that lasted for 3 years, then the emotional affair became physical, we even moved in with each other, leaving our families.
And then God spoke to me through the darkness, told me that if I continued in this path I would be dead spiritually eternally.
I went home, my wife accepted me back(with many stipulations, of course...counseling, no contact with this woman, moving to a new worksite, sharing of e-mail password, etc.
That was 3 years ago, and we have grown closer to each other and to God than we ever were.
I would say the thing that has been the most transforming thing for me has been to seek God. I read that if we seek God he will take complete care of us. I didn't quite know how to seek God, so I asked him how to do that, and he told me what I needed to do to seek him.
I would suggest you do the same...seek God, and if you don't know how, ask him what that looks like for you.
I pray for understanding from your wife as you heal from this wound you have inflicted on yourself and on your family.
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singingnurse
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08/30/2010 22:51 |
I just happened upon this site from face book. I have been dealing with an emotional affair, ( so he says) of my husband's of 23 years for 3 months with more than one woman. My 17 yr old actually discovered it by playing with her dad's phone. He had put a pass code lock on it 4 month previously. Bought this woman an i phone and put it on our phone bill. I work 48-60 hrs. a week. This woman doesn't work. I looked at his phone with her pictures, her children , messages to her and her son, voice mails. It's all been very had to digest for me and our three children. He's not the man I married. Golf and the country club became more important than his family and God. We tried counciling with no help. He has lied so much that trust is completely broken. He makes light of it all and twist everything until he is blaming me. I have seen a lawyer, I have picked out an apartment for my 17 yr old and me. He won't leave the house and I don't want it anyway. We had been there 16 years. I can be self sufficient no problem with my job. I have been dragging my heels. He has an illness and has been on medication that has affected his mind some. He went off of it , but physically is going back on it for need. He turned 50 yr recently and lost 70 lbs after coming off of steroids.
I love him, always will, but I don't want to live with him. I can't stand the daily reminders and his unwilling to accept the responsibility for what he has done. I'll always feel some responsibility for him because of the children and his illness. Our family needs prayer and I need to know that this is not anything I did. I've stayed here hoping that he would be remorseful, but it's not like that. He makes light of all this mess.
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Rebecca
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09/01/2010 08:03 |
Your family heartache is not out of the sight or heart of God. He loves all of you...and has the ability to unwind the webs of deception, in order to get at the root issues of your husband's infidelity. There are so many directions that you can take, but please seek God, His way, His plan, His direction..."stand firm. let nothing move you. do everything in love". As crazy as it will sound, cover your husband in prayer. Speak to your pastoral staff...and only your pastoral staff. Be very selective of who knows the infidelities...and prayer without ceasing...for your husband, your marriage, your children, your walk with God...and let absolutely nothing seperate you from God. He is your lifeline, your shield, you safety, your eternity. When darness seems to overtake your heart...cry out to God. He is ever present...
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Helga
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09/01/2010 23:33 |
Cindy thank you for sharing. It is always difficult if you love someone and he just seems to go after his own pleasures and you feel rejected. I agree with Rebecca, what hope do we really have, then in Jesus? And the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Look at scriptures and speak them out loud and claim the promise of God. Prayer is so important because the devil always comes to steal, kill and destroy but we have the tool to fight this.
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Servant-Ken
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09/03/2010 20:19 |
Praying for you and your wife Ibmcoc.
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