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Need Encouragement?
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Very lonely,needing encouragement
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Three years ago the woman I was in a relationship with and living with told me that in order to save the relationship I needed to move out. I did. A month later she had told me that she wanted me to be happy so I should start looking for a new woman. I told her I would feel guilty doing that. Each time I'd go on a date she said she felt sick and horrible thinking the next call from me would be that I found someone. She said that she had no interest in finding anyone that she liked her life this way and liked being independent. At that point we saw each other during the weekends. Then few weeks went by and she said to only come down saturday afternoons and leave sunday nights. Few weeks went by and it turned to every other week. Last year we were supposed to break up and not talk to each other for a while...that lasted two weeks. September this year rolled around,it was her birthday so I spent the day with her and we went out that night. She had told me the beginning of September that she felt it necessary now to start looking that she only wanted someone to hang out with and go to movies with. When I was with her on her birthday she told me that she had been on two dates with a man before we had gone out on her birthday and it didn't work out. Last week she now told me that she had been on two dates with another man and going on a 3rd. I asked her what happened to "saving the relationship". She said that honestly...when she told me to move out that she didn't see any future with me. She now is in a meaningful relationship,has been intimate with this new man and says she's very happy that he is just what she's been searching for. My problem is that of course I'm hurt and devestated, which I told her. She says she's hurt because I'm hurting. I asked her when she fell out of love with me. She said she never really did that It's a different kind of love. My problem is that I'm trying to get over her but I keep envisioning them her with another man, kissing another man and having sex with another man. I'ts killing me because she used to be mine and now she's his. Another thing is that it's bad timing at the holiday's. I have a hard time at the Holiday's anyway and now this. At this part I'm getting angry with her,not talking to her, don't want to talk to her and don't want to see her. I feel betrayed because I wish she would have been upfront three years ago when she had me move out. All this time we've been playing "friends with benefits" and she's been telling me she loves me. I'm lonely for companionship and want to share my life with a new woman who I have similar interests with. I've been praying on this and I know that everything happens for a reason so trying to be patient. I'm not as emotional as I was but still think of her and the situation. Thank you for your prayers and suggestions.
Chicagoman
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 chicagoman 12/10/2011 16:08 |
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Davidwayne Lackey
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12/10/2011 22:06 |
Praying
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susanst53
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12/10/2011 23:22 |
praying for you. i know what 'obsession' is like - i had that with my exhusband. God is awesome - and when I turned my focus on Him - things changed. I encourage you to dive into this community, the DAB audio daily and other Christian programming = particularily healing to me was Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen - and Creflo Dollar. It will get better with God's grace.
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Helga
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12/11/2011 01:07 |
Praying for you. Remember with God all things are possible. I think we all make some choices in life which do not work out as we wish them to be. God will help you to forget your past and focus on your future. Seek him, rely on His Word and move on. Forgive those who hurt you and then God can work in your life and theirs. He can heal you and give you wisdom and understanding and a wonderful person to share your life with. Remember his Word transforms you, so dig into it and we will support you in prayer.
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