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Need Encouragement?
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Family Conflict
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My daughter and I live with my grandparents. I and my Uncle, their youngest son, work and take care of what they can't do for themselves. Mamaw helps me with my daughter when I am at work and that is wonderful. The problem is that she still thinks that she rules the roost and that that includes my daughter. She doesn't have to respect the rules that I set for her not even about her medicine that she is supposed to get at night while I'm at work. Today, it's something small but done specifically to show Kay and me that she doesn't have to follow the rules that I set for Kay. I called her out on it and she gives the silent treatment and keeps right on doing it. She contradicts me and acts like it's my fault that I can't get Kay to obey me. She has made it clear that Kay doesn't have to do what I say by doing it for her and with her right in my face. Now, she raised me and my dad didn't participate, she actively discouraged it even when it would have been okay. She didn't even let Papaw participate much in the raising of the children they had, especially "her kids" that she brought with her to the marriage. I think she believes that I'm supposed do the same thing that everyone else has. But I'm not going to just let her run me down and take over with my daughter. I've seen her kids, I've seen how she raised me and another cousin. I do not want her raising my daughter but I don't see how I could afford to raise her alone, working nights with what I make. I could except for child care at night. And finding a decent day job her in Louisiana is daunting. I don't think this will work though. I'm so tired of my grandmother treating me with so little respect. She's been like this all my life and still expects me to respect her even though she's a controller and a manipulator. I shouldn't have stayed here this long but I wanted to help my grandma and help supplement their income too but I can't keep this up. Mamaw's help is not worth the effect is has on Me,Kay and the parental relationship. Anyone have a good idea?
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Misty Crawford 01/01/2012 18:38 |
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marciak9
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01/02/2012 20:36 |
You are very fortunate to have a living arrangement like this. Please look for the good and not focus on the bad. If you treat your grandmother with respect she will respect you in return. Focus on the positive, ask God for help. It will get better!
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Tom B
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01/03/2012 11:41 |
I'm praying with you and your daughter and grandmother.
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