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Need Encouragement?
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My fiancée is struggling with loneliness
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I need prayers for my fiancée, Tory. Last summer we got engaged and then she moved out from living with her parents to be closer to me (we lived about 25 minutes apart prior to last summer). She's since been really struggling with feelings of loneliness and depression. She doesn't get to see her family much anymore and her friends have just about disappeared. Since she picked her bridesmaids last July, 2 of them dropped out and her Maid of Honor is seemingly going out of her way to ignore her. My sister and one of Tory's cousins are bridesmaids and are basically filler. This whole process has been incredibly hard for me to watch, since my groomsmen are like brothers to me. I almost feel guilty for having such strong friendships in my life and she's never really had any deep relationships or communities to be a part of in her life.
Trust me, it isn't from a lack of effort. She calls, texts & e-mails like crazy with little to no success. We've tried plugging into our local churches but she has a pretty inconsistant work schedule; it seems like for every Sunday morning she has off, she won't get another Sunday off for 2 months. We've tried getting her more involved with my communities but we haven't had much success there either. She doesn't have any strong friendships at work, she honestly can't stand most of her coworkers.
I just wish there was something I could do. When she gets really down I feel so helpless. Please keep her & us in your prayers if isn't much trouble. I just hate to see her hurting like this.
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 Jim 02/21/2012 11:52 |
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Helga
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02/22/2012 03:21 |
Jim I understand how you feel and also how Tory feels. To move to a new place can be hard and somehow one can get a little depressed. Nothing looks right. I have gone through it and I know that feeling.
What I see it that Tory just seem to like nothing around her. She made up her mind that "things look grim" in the new area and I pray that God will help her that she changes the way she things. Thoughts are so powerful and they just seem to rule your live if you let them. The devil is quite happy to fill your thoughts with "hopelessness and negative things"
I pray that the scripture where it says that we must take every thought captive and make it obedient to word of God, will become alive in her. Help her to speak the Word of God into any situation. We always think we do everything for our benefit but we actually do it all for God.
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Jake Van Horn
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02/23/2012 02:50 |
Congratulations on your engagement! I know that some girls can put so much pressure on them selves and others before a wedding. Not to mention the build up that can be places on the wedding day it's self. Some times it's so easy to get so involved in this aspect of a marriage that you end up not giving much thought to the rest of your lives together. I remember the how crazy life was during my engagement period. There are also interpersonal relationships that girls find them selves in, in life and especially during some of the aspects of planning a wedding that dudes just wouldn't even think about. What I finally figured out with my wife is that she doesn't necessarily expect me to fix everything that comes up for her. But she does expect me to be there and to love her. Praying with you both, Jim.
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wesrman
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02/23/2012 12:13 |
I know exactly how she feels. I moved to a city for my ex gf twice, and it was rough. I would suggest she try and connect with pastors or volunteers from her church. They are usually willing to help people make connections.
I would also like to extend an invitation to the chatroom. I know some people have reservations about chatrooms, but this one is different. There is a large group of us there with similar issues who have become very close.
best of luck. :)
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Toni
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02/28/2012 22:13 |
Ahhh Jim. First of all congratulations to both you and Tory on your upcoming wedding.
I can relate to how she feels. I can get really lonely too. I got sick last year with a nerve disorder and so far, in one year, ONE friend has come to visit me. The rest abandoned me despite me coming right out and asking them to visit. The phone, emails, texts remain silent. When I was well and serving, I had a very active social life. That just makes it doubly hard.
What I found though was that through this time in my life, I've been able to get closer and closer to God. And He HAS been blessing me in many ways. Most of my relationships are on-line now but I'm able to share my faith and encourage others and make a positive difference in people's lives. And I do believe that He is using y illness for this (turning bad to good).
I will of course pray for you both and for true godly friends to come along side her (already have actually) and in the meantime, she can feel free to email me at angeleyez@bell.net or search me out on Facebook (Toni Camuso Booth) and I would be honoured to be her on-line friend.
My hear goes out to her. How broken hearted she must feel by the events. And how brokenhearted you are too seeing the woman you love go through all this.
But GOD is faithful and good. And where there's God, there's Hope.
Praying for God's blessings to be poured out on both of you.
Sending you both love & hugs (lots of em!)
Your sister in Christ,
T xo
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