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Stories from the Front Lines
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Marriage vs divorce
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My husband I almost became another statistic about 15 years ago. He was struggling with all the bad stuff the world tempts us with and me with insecurity and fear. We both had so much baggage from growing up and were not willing to let it go. The marriage councilor told us he did not think we had a chance of making it so we might as well throw in the towel. I was a believer and my husband was not so his reaction was to go and party with his friends and mine was to be on my knees in prayer. There were alot of tears for me and asking God why was all of this happening. One day while driving to work, I was praying outloud and asked "why can't you just fix this" and as soon as the words were out of my mouth I heard "because I need you to leave so I can do my work"....to make a long story short, I did not leave for about another year and then I knew that I had no other choice. When I finally got out of my own way and allowed God to do His work, I began slowly to see the changes in both of us. God began a huge healing in Craigs life and he began to see all of the damage his unforgiveness and anger at his family took on our marriage. It took about 7 months apart, tons of support from my christian family, and prayer, prayer, prayer. Even though I thought it was all Craigs fault, God had much work to do in my heart first before He could begin on "us".
I say to all of you who are thinking of quiting your marriage, please don't. Give God a chance and persevere in prayer. Both of our families and our children are always amazed when they see us together, holding hands, talking...being respectful and always encouraging each other. He is my best friend and I am his, but none of this would have been possible without God in the center. Craig is still not saved, but he asks questions and always encourages me to be apart of my church family. I hope this helps someone...God is in the business of doing the impossible so that only He can get the credit and not man.
Blessings....April <><
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 April 'nvcatlover' 10/07/2009 14:45 |
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Marcie in MO
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10/07/2009 15:06 |
What an encouragement, April. Isn't it the truth that most of the time we just can't or won't get out of our own way!
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. TonyN09
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10/07/2009 15:19 |
Very encouraging, April. Why would a marriage councilor tell anyone to throw in the towel? Kind of defeats the purpose of marriage counceling, doesn't it? Gees.
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Servant-Ken
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10/07/2009 15:27 |
Thank you April. I truly feel God wants men and women to get through these hard times and not give up. I could go through what I feel God has told me to do in my situation, but won't get into that here. He speaks to everyone differently. You are spot on with what you have written.
My prayer is that one day, my marriage will be like yours is now. I need to have faith, and believe He is working and will complete this miracle.
Thank you so much for sharing this.
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Olga a.k.a. olechka4480
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10/07/2009 21:52 |
Aaahh... missing to see your pictures, guys :-\
April, thank you for sharing, darling. Awesome story. Glory to God almighty! :-D
I got pretty much the same message ("let go and let God") in my "looking for a husband" situation. Now i'm at peace. Still alone, but not bothered by it... Waiting on God's perfect timing :-) Keep me in your prayers though! :-D lol..
Blessings,
~Olga
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tara
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10/08/2009 06:54 |
That's extremely encouraging, April. It seems there have been more than usual marriage-related prayer requests lately. I'm sure your posting is going to touch a lot of people.
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Paul Barker
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10/11/2009 02:42 |
We were married in 1980 and had ups and downs. But since our second child was born when my wife's long standing strange neurological symptoms previously undiagnosed were clearly diagnosed M.S. 12 years ago, we have been thrown on God.
Trials have brought us into a far stronger loving and complete relationship.
I know a priest who is seperated right now and they had been married longer that us. this news in last few weeks has really saddened me, and is terribly destructive not only to each of their lives but to the life of their church. There is no infidelity.
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